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Sally
Thursday, September 4, 2008 |
I stumbled upon your website whilst doing a little research. I have suffered fom Depression for 10 years now but few people know about it due to the stigma.
I was just so relieved to read how you describe the racing thoughts, bad file and the garbage truck. I didn't know why I was torturing myself with bad memories from my past when I was feeling low and you explain it so matter-of factly.
We need more people in the world like you. You have no idea how much relief you have given me just by reading you simple explanation of the seratonin levels - I know that I am 'normal' in the world of depression and that what I experience is common among depression sufferers.
Thank you!
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Laura Capstick
Saturday, August 23, 2008 |
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great article about the loser, I found it very insightful and also informative. Thanks Joseph :)
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Jeanne Myers
Friday, August 22, 2008 |
Dear Dr. Carver,
I found the article on The Stockholm Syndrome on another website a couple years ago and give a copy to every new client in my DV support group. I just found your website this week and have already copied the Personality Disorder and Loser articles for my group members. Thanks for making these valuable tools available. Your website is now on my favorites list.
Jeanne
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Hermes
Tuesday, August 12, 2008 |
Dr. Carver: This is a seriously good website, with an enormous wealth of information. I just wish your articles could be published even more widely, and made compulsory reading! Particularly "The Stockholm Syndrome" and "The Loser".
Thank you again
Hermes
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Brent Cox
Saturday, August 9, 2008 |
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Thanks for the information, sometimes I feel like I am a little boy, lost at sea, with no direction in my life. I suffer from Bi-Polar disorder, PTSD from being sexual abused as a child and Epilipsy. So, I have a lot to deal with on a daily basis. However, medicine work about 40% of the time for me. Every morning my sister and I get out and run 4 miles at 4 a.m. EST and with this and wieght loss from taking Lithium and really doing nothing all the time. For the first time in my life the skies are clearing, the clouds are leaving and I feel better than ever. I know that exercise and motivation its not a cure for depression, but I feel less depressed and more hopeful for the future. By the way, cut out the sodas, drink water, lots of water and try the food pryimid. You have to take the control back and once you do you are free.
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Bonnie Egbuo
Tuesday, April 29, 2008 |
Dr. Carver, I read your article about the nuerological links to various types of mental health disorders on a search to a website "Your not alone."
I was so moved by how you took a very difficult topic and made it simplistic enough so that someone like me could understand how chemical changes in the body impacts ones mental health.
I have suffered for many years with all forms of depression and anxiety. I tried to hide my mental health issues because of the stigma.
A month ago, I saw a psychologist, for one visit, but I never went back. Over the last three weeks my co-workers and I have been so stressed out, we are all complaining of all the things you said, but none of us are brave enough to call it what it is and get help.
After reading your article, I am going to share it with my co-workers tomorrow, AND, I'm going to make that appointment again, because I now believe there is really help available.
So, thank you so very much from the bottom of my heart for letting me know I'm not alone, and what I am feeling has a real cause and real help.
I'll now be a regular reader of your website. I wish you were in my hometown.
Sincere Regards
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Sheila
Wednesday, March 5, 2008 |
Dr. Carver, I thank-you for explainin g in words what has been going on in my mind for years. Being able to recognize that low seritonin effects the way our brain works has helped me more than I ever imagined. The garbage truck comparison was so exact for me. I had so many things that when depressed started ran over and over in my mind .Things my counsellor and I had dealt with time and time again. When I was able to recognize the thoughts for what they were garbage and started using them as an indicator that my seritonin was quite possibly out of whack the lift was tremendous.
Thank-you after 25 years of battling depression I now look at is as my companion and use it as an indicator that some thing is not right and that I need to take care of myself.
Again Thank-you Dr. Carver!
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Deborah Delp
Saturday, February 23, 2008 |
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Dr. Carver, Thank you for your article on the Stockholm Syndrome. I find it very enlightening. I am separated from my physician husband with whom I have 4 children and am learning he has been controlling and verbally abusive for years. Yet between times of anger and abuse was kind and "the perfect doctor and person". I am learning I blocked out the bad and only remembered the good. I have searched the internet for articles and find your website to be warm and informative, not at all intimidating. Thank You, Deborah Delp
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Ms. Isobel McKellar
Wednesday, February 6, 2008 |
Dr. Carver:
Thank you! Your wonderful articles have been very enlightening to me. I have been diagnosed with post traumatic stress disorder and take medication for this condition. This Friday, January 8th, 2008, I am starting couselling. Your information has opened my eyes to other problems that I am experiencing. I did not know what was happening to me or what it was called. Stolkhom syndrome and old files is exactly what has been happening to me. I believe that knowledge is power and I am taking printouts of your information to help my counsellor with my journey to recovery. You have been a tremendous help to me. God bless.
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Amy
Wednesday, January 30, 2008 |
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Your articles on depression and brain chemistry as well as the "bad file" explanations were very straightforward and some of the most encouraging I have read on depression. Thank you for explaining so well what depression can do to our thought processes and how a chemical upset can bring this about.
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Nina
Tuesday, January 29, 2008 |
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How to Tell You are Dating a Loser is by far the best advice anyone could ever give. I hope you continue to share this knowledge with all people, especially in the manner in which you do. I would tell you I love you, but that would indicate that I am a loser who suffers from point #2 - in which case, I am not.
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wendy
Wednesday, January 23, 2008 |
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Thank you!!!! i have just come across this site and have read the stolkholm sydrome, i have recently left a marriage of 32 years and i am having support from a social worker, I never realized i was in domestic violence, and i struggle with all that has happened. all physical physoligical and sexual abuse happened, I cant thank you enough , you have given understanding where i thought i was crazy, my feelings have been valadated. I can see where the social worker has worked with me and that deeper undestanding that i am now able to see. thank you again.
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Hermes
Sunday, January 13, 2008 |
Dr. Carver:
Your site is a beacon in the darkness for so many traumatised people. Since I first located your webiste, several years ago, I have recommended it, and your eye-opening articles, to so many, particularly on a number of support groups. What I like is the non-nonsense common sense approach.
Best of Luck
Hermes
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Lotte Grove
Wednesday, January 9, 2008 |
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Hi - far away from Denmark, I just want to say thank you for the Article 'Love and Stockholm Syndrome'. I have finally stepped out of a such a relation (been there for 10 years). An this article supports me in the right direction. - I keep on travelling. Thank You!
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thankful
Monday, December 17, 2007 |
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thank you for describing the relationship between an abusive mom and son as the Stockholm Syndrome- and for the insight on how to handle the son who does not live with us.
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Jodi Obirek
Friday, November 23, 2007 |
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Hi, I am a school social worker and enjoy reading your insights and suggestions to clients who write in their dilemmas. Your feedback is unbiased and accurate.
Take care!
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Jodi Obirek, Chicago, IL.
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K
Wednesday, November 14, 2007 |
I just wanted to thank you for sharing your AMAZING article 'Warning Signs You're Dating a Loser'! I am(soon not to be!) in a fairly new relationship and when I went to support a male friend(of ten years) who recently learned his Dad has cancer, the bf freaked out. He made me feel guilty, as though I did something wrong when I KNOW in my soul I did something for a friend that will be remembered loooong after this Loser is just another learning experience in my wonderful, happy life!
To make a long story longer...lol...I went through this for the first time about a year ago. I'm SO THANKFUL I stepped back so quickly and found your article. It couldn't have been said any better(and it's extra fun when I call him the loser...yes, I have a lot to deal with myself...lol).
THANK YOU FOR DOING WHAT YOU DO! I know I am a good soul and only want to see people happy...I'm just thankful I caught this so soon. And I'm thankful mostly for your advice on how to 'get out'. It's easy to say now, but I know my heart will hurt so it's nice to have advice not to just cut him off completely...but more so gradually. It will help me a lot with my dealing and not pulling on that slot machine when it gives me a few nickels!
THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
~K
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Tiffany Tweedle-Hickman
Tuesday, September 11, 2007 |
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I am a pharmacist & was asked to present medication education to our inpatients. I read your article on Brain Chemistry. It was easy to read & sparked my memory about what I had learned in PhC school. I now teach Brain Chemistry 101 to our patient's. I didn't use the car analogy, but did make some dials to show highs & lows. Thank You!
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Mary Jo May
Saturday, August 18, 2007 |
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Quite by chance I found your article, The Mystery of Loving an Abuser by googling 'Stockholm Syndrome'. it was on the first page of the website.
The article was a lifesaver for me and cousins in changing our attitude and support toward my sister who has been in a verbally abusive relationship for over 40 years.
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Shawna
Wednesday, July 25, 2007 |
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Dr. Carver,
Just had to say thank you for your article on Identifying Losers in Relationships. I am certain that there is no way you could know how many lives you have saved over the years by posting this article, mine included.
Your article literally saved my life, as the abuser I dated severely destroyed me on a mental and physical level to the point where breathing was an effort.
Thank you for posting this life-saving information at no cost.
many, many blessings...
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Katrina Raetzer
Tuesday, June 5, 2007 |
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Dr. Joe. Thank you for your articles. You bring sanity to my insane life. If only I had read these when I started dating. Now at 50, three divorces, working on divorce four, I have healing from all this trauma in my life. Fortunately, my family has always been there for me and still is. I look forward to your future work and articles. I have a binder already started with your current work. If you have an online newsletter, I would like to receive them. Again, thank you for all the work you do, your interest in this subject, and your superb writing technique.
-Katrina
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Dan
Saturday, May 26, 2007 |
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Hi Dr. Carver. Your articles on brain chemistry - seratonin, GABA, norepinephrine, etc. are the most informative, most straightforward things I've read on the subject. Thanks for sharing your knowledge.
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Traci
Wednesday, May 16, 2007 |
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I just wanted to tell you I stumbled upon your site by accident, or probably by divine intervention one day. I love it! You are soooooo on the mark with your articles. The article about the
"Stockholm Syndrom" explained my relationship with my narcissist husband and the reason it is SO HARD to leave him or send him packing down the road so very perfectly that I sent a copy of it to my mother. Beforehand, she just 'didn't get it'. No one ever does unless they've actually been involved in a romantic relationship with a narcissist. But now she's got it! And she apologized for pushing me to ditch him! She's patiently waiting for me to get myself together and do it for good, but properly. Thank you so much for the list of how to see if you are dating a loser.... I gave it to my best friend's 16 year old daughter and MADE HER READ IT. You rock!!!! Traci
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Debbie B.
Monday, May 14, 2007 |
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Your artilce "The Loser" was the greatest thing I have read. It was so helpful to understand. Thank you.
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Lenard P. Lachica
Tuesday, April 17, 2007 |
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Hi Doc!
I'm Lenard and I'm currently taking my Masters in Psychology majoring in Clinical Counseling in Xavier University-Ateneo de Cagayan here in the Philippines. Your article about the Stockholme Syndrome was a great help to support my Research Paper about battered women who ended up killing their partners. I encountered some of them in local correctional facilities when I do counseling their as part of our apostolate. I was then a prenovice for the Jesuits then and at thesame time taking my M.A. I've been out of the prenovitiate program to pursue a career as a guidance counselor/teacher in one of the schools here, a change of environment I guess. Anyway I'm still continuing my M.A. and hope I could pursue a doctorate degree someday if i could get through my current status. In this way I could expand my learning horizons thus helping others, altruism will it be.Anyway hope to keep in touch and really thanks for sharing your wisdom.
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